Vietnamese Women & Westerners

You’ll probably find that Vietnamese women tend to be a bit slimmer, fairer skinned, and slightly taller than Thai girls tend to be. Whereas in some Asian countries you need to do some footwork to unearth the local lovelies, in Vietnam it seems like good looks are the norm. I think that it has something to do with the near total absence of overweight people, the vast majority of ladies in Vietnam have fit and slim, sexy physiques.

Finding a long-term love interest in Vietnam is easy to do if you take your time and enjoy a courtship. The ladies of Vietnam are seeking permanent relationships on:

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There is good news and bad news on the expenses side of things when it comes to romance with Vietnamese women. The country as a whole is one of the poorest in Asia, with average income per head less than half that in Thailand so, as you’d expect, this makes a lot of things cheaper than they are in other countries.

In Saigon the overall cost of living is something like 20% cheaper than it is in Bangkok, and Hanoi in the north is a little cheaper still. The bad news is that there is quite a lot of variability in the individual cost of things so, depending on what your intentions are, you might find your budget doesn’t stretch quite as far as you’d hoped.

There’s cause for celebration if you are a budding alcoholic; a half-litre bottle of domestic beer sold in a Saigon bar or restaurant costs less than a dollar on average, which is less than half what you would usually pay in Bangkok. On the flip side, as you’ll read on my pages about escorts and hookers (see links below), the typical cost of a naughty nightlife rendezvous that you might have in Vietnam is quite a lot higher than it would be in any of Thailand, Cambodia or the Philippines.

Some Vietnamese university students in traditional dress...

Dating Vietnamese Women and State Interference

If you have read my articles about the Philippines, you will have noticed that I made several references to the impact of the Catholic faith there and how it might affect your dating adventures. Happily, this is one aspect of life in Vietnam that you won’t need to worry about. Vietnamese women tend not have any deep religious conviction, and neither does rest of the country. According to Wikipedia, Vietnam is one of the least religious countries in the world.

Contraceptives are readily available and there is no risk of the state getting involved in your family planning preferences were you to get a girl pregnant. If this happened and the two of you decided that an abortion would be the best way forward then you won’t be refused this option, these things are not uncommon and safety standards are high.

A completely different aspect of the dating game that might impact on your amorous intentions relates to hotel guest policy i.e. it is illegal for Vietnamese women to occupy a hotel room with a foreigner to whom she is not married! I’ve written a little about this problem, and how to circumvent it, on my page about dating Viet girls.

If you want a serious relationship, most Vietnamese ladies are happy to leave their own country to live with their soul-mates. They are feminine and sweet and on:

My recommended Vietnam dating site


Attitudes towards westerners

One of the big concerns that can put people off visiting Vietnam is the worry that there is some sort of lingering resentment towards westerners over the withdrawal of troops during the Vietnam War. This is a complete nonsense; even the North Vietnamese have no lasting negative thoughts about us, they consider it all to be in the past. In South Vietnam there is actually a widespread appreciation for the efforts that the west took to protect it from communism.

This, of course, is not the official line which insists that southerners are happy to be rid of the Americans, but that doesn’t seem to square with what you hear when you get to Saigon. By the way, locals refer to the southern capital as Saigon, nobody calls it by its official name Ho Chi Minh city. There is resentment in Vietnam, but it is firmly between the North and South of the country, so western visitors have no reason to be concerned.

It is probably a good idea to avoid mentioning the war at all, in case of inadvertently causing offense. Some westerners have taken an almost apologetic stance for messing the country up by being there at all, but that stance will not sit well with the southerners, they don’t regret resisting Communism and if they get the impression that you do then they won’t like it. Northerners on the other hand won’t expect you to feel one way or another about it, it is ancient history as far as they are concerned so my advice is to let the past stay where it belongs.

If you are expecting to be greeted everywhere you go by beaming instantaneous smiles on the faces of Vietnamese women as soon as you make an appearance, then you might be disappointed. Only Thailand is known as the land of smiles, the other Asian countries are less forthcoming with such outward friendliness, but much of what you see in Thailand is superficial anyway. The Vietnamese are a very friendly people once you dig beneath the surface.

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Other Considerations

Crime levels are low in Vietnam and you need not have any major concerns about wandering the streets at night. The only significant risks entails bag-snatchers and pickpockets. I’ve heard many tales about thieves on motorbikes whereby two guys on a bike approach you from behind and one of them grabs the strap of anything you are carrying over your shoulder – so be wary of that.

The pickpockets to be wary of also approach you on a motorbike but they tend to be women flaunting their charms. A group of them might start handing you in a somewhat intimate fashion and their hands will be all over you; next thing you know they’re darting off with all your valuables in their possession!

Corruption exists just as it does elsewhere, but you will get the impression that it is completely absent. Unlike Thailand, where police will often scam you for money for non-existent traffic offenses and the like, the Vietnamese tend to leave westerners in peace.

One problem that you might have is trouble being understood. In Saigon and the major tourist areas you’ll be fine, but step away from those and English language skills are poor. Additionally, local Vietnamese women that have a good command of the English language are even more likely to be working-girls than would be the case in Thailand. The best way to meet regular girls that have English skills is to go after University educated girls online, my recommended Vietnamese dating site will help with that. Be aware though that success with these girls only comes for guys seeking long-term love interests.

I have read from numerous unrelated, but reliable, sources that successfully dating Vietnamese women has many similarities with dating in China. The girls can be won over by approaching them almost like an older protective brother; pander to them and take care of them in this fashion and you’ll soon have a doting girlfriend on your hands…

Almost all visitors to Vietnam report that the food there is the best in Asia; cheap and absolutely delicious. If you have already tried Vietnamese food that was prepared in a different country, and been unimpressed by it, you may well find that the home-produced variety is much better. Vietnamese women are almost universally skilled at cooking and, early in your relationship, you’ll no doubt be invited to some home-cooked delights. If that invitation entails meeting her parents then you should accept it; meeting the parents has all the same implications in Vietnam as it does in Thailand, so go well prepared.

If you take your time to explore Vietnam, you’ll find a country with friendly people and stunningly beautiful scenery that can rival any of the most beautiful scenic destinations in Asia. Halong Bay in the north is indescribably beautiful, and there are many pristine beach resorts to choose from, Nha Trang being my top-tip due to its relatively lively nightlife. All in all, there is plenty here to recommend Vietnamese women as a worthy option to consider in your Asian romantic endeavours.

More Information:

How to Attract Vietnamese Girls – Finding a good natured local lady is not at all a difficult thing in Vietnam but it is quite typical of western visitors to associate with the easiest company i.e. hookers. This is fine if you don’t mind the expense and don’t want a lasting relationship, but if you are looking for something more serious then you’ll need to understand a few things first.

Vietnamese Escorts Explained – there are some significant differences between the escort scene in Vietnam and Thailand, most notably in terms of availability, price, and variety. There are also some differences in legality that you should be aware of. For information on all of this and more, have a read of this page.

Vietnamese Hookers in bars – the bar scene in Vietnam is tiny in comparison to the big tourist focused nightspots in Thailand, but there are some options that are worth a look. The sort of experiences that you’ll have with Vietnamese women in bars are more likely to be short-term in nature, and you’re less likely to get scammed by a gold-digger.

This sweet young lady is only 19 years old and she comes from Hanoi, the capital of Vietnam in the North.

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