If the idea of dating Thai girls appeals to you then you are not alone. More and more men are looking eastwards for their romantic partners these days and with good reason; mainstream Thai attitudes towards westerners have improved a great deal in recent years. Foreign investment has poured into the country, bringing with it a body of respectable western visitors on overseas work-contracts and so on, and this has stirred romantic curiosity levels amongst the ladies; even hi-society girls are starting to take an interest in us!
On my site I'll give you all the best advice for dating the right Thai girls for your circumstances. My recommended Thai dating site is, in most cases, the best place to start your search for a lady. Practice has proven it to be the most effective method whilst also offering the best value for money (be aware that there are some online scams and that some dating sites cost a lot of money whilst failing to deliver on their promises). You'll find a high proportion of Thai ladies looking for foreign boyfriends on my recommended site; there's usually around four active Thai female profiles for every western male profile.
The tourist hotspots are great places for having casual fun with Thai girls, but they are not suitable for finding a lasting romance – have a read of the story below for an example of why this is the case.
Whatever your romantic interest in Thai girls is, you’ve landed on the right website. In the sections and pages that follow, you’ll find all the advice that you need to get started on your search for a romantic partner from the right side of the track, one that isn’t only interested in your money! What’s more…. all the information here is completely free. This is not a dating site in itself, so there are no subscription fees to pay.
In general, it is not really a good idea to jump straight into online dating unless you have some familiarity with Thai girls and the way they think and feel. Believe it or not, the vast majority of problems that occur online are due to one cultural misunderstanding or another. You might assume that the language barrier is the biggest problem, but many of the online ladies have got a decent grasp of English, and most others can easily find an interpreter to help out.
Effective communication (not the same as language) is the key and that is where most Westerners fall short in their efforts; you don’t need to speak Thai and you don’t need your girl to speak English fluently (although a basic grasp of English is obviously a help), what you do need is some help to understand how Thai girls think and feel; and how these emotions differ to typical Western feelings and emotions in any given situation. I’ll give you my best advice on this along with lots of advice about finding a respectable lady, what to expect on a date, how to present yourself, how to impress, and above all, what not to do, not to write and not to say!
Of course, not everyone who is interested in Thai dating is intending to find a wife and settle down; plenty of people are turning to online dating because it is a fun, simple way of meeting lots of people. In Thailand, the online dating opportunities for an average Westerner are infinitely more abundant than what you will find in the West; it really is very easy to meet Thai girls and arrange a date. If you are just looking to have some fun, Thai dating offers you a chance to really indulge yourself!
Last up, not every man is interested in meeting a girl at all... ladyboy dating is very popular and I think it is fair to say that there is simply no other place on Earth that compares to Thailand in terms of the opportunities available. Where many other places in the world are, to put it mildly, discriminatory against ladyboys, in Thailand such prejudices barely exist. You can kick back and completely relax in the knowledge that nobody is even going to raise an eyebrow if you are accompanying a ladyboy… it just doesn’t matter at all.
David (from Scotland)
One night last summer, a Thai girl brought a turning point in my life. I
had recently returned to the United Kingdom when I received a phone
call from my girlfriend Nan. We had been together for almost two years
and everything was going well. Nan was my first long term girlfriend
from Thailand having met her in a 7/11 store in Pattaya. She had been
working there for nearly six months and as it was next to my regular
hotel, I would visit there most days during my holiday.
After asking her for a date on numerous occasions, she eventually agreed. Up until that point I had been a regular on the bar scene, paying bar girls to accompany me. I was content with that life for many years. My time spent in Thailand consisted of partying and enjoying myself. In the UK, I was employed as a process operator on a chemical production facility. My rota allowed me 4 weeks holiday for every eight weeks that I worked. This gave me ample opportunity to visit Thailand.
After four or five years of visiting places like Pattaya, Phuket and Bangkok, the bar scene was getting a little mundane. I had watched my friends settle down with Thai girls and the possibility of doing the same seemed more and more appealing. Many of my friends work in the same industry as me. As soon as they had completed their rotation, they would jump on a flight and travel to Thailand. They enjoyed a normal, family life and seemed settled. I decided that on my next visit I would look for a Thai girl to settle down with.
Nan called me one day in July; I had been back in the United Kingdom for almost six weeks by then. We spoke every day on the phone and used Skype for video calls. I could tell immediately that something was not quite right. Nan seemed a little troubled and I wondered if she was having problems with her family back in the village. She eventually confessed that she was pregnant and that the baby was mine. I was happy at the news. We had started to build a home near Pattaya close to my friends and everything was going well. Perhaps it was a good time to start a family? Nan was pleased with my reaction. I think she had been a little concerned about how I would react as we had not talked about having a baby.
I had heard a lot of stories about Thai girls deceiving western men with regard to the paternity of a child. However, having carefully studied the dates I was convinced that the baby was mine. If the dates were correct then we had been together in Buriram visiting her family. Buriram has a relatively small expat scene but there are bars and discos in the city itself. I enjoyed the time I spent there and can vividly remember that we were inseparable during that month together. In fact, I don’t recall one single time that we were not in the same room or building. We agreed that having a baby would be a good thing for our relationship and that she should go to see a doctor.
During the following months, my trips to Thailand were spent taking care of Nan and visiting the hospital for regular check-ups and scans. The scan confirmed that Nan had conceived during our time in Buriram. As the pregnancy got closer, Nan began to become a little tense. Her attitude towards me changed slightly but I put it down to the pregnancy. After all, many western women get a little moody when they’re pregnant, right, so why should Thai girls be any different? I continued to be the doting future father and provided her with everything that she needed.
My family from the UK came over to see us on a number of occasions during the pregnancy. My mother and father had already met Nan and they had really clicked. They had a good relationship with Nan and enjoyed her company. The feeling was mutual with Nan particularly friendly with my mother. The first time that they visited us during the pregnancy, Nan seemed a little withdrawn. She would not interact with them in the same way and seemed a little distant. I could not really understand this. My parents asked me if everything was okay as they had noticed a change in attitude from Nan towards them. Previously, she had enjoyed going shopping to the markets with my mother and they could be out for the entire day together. However, this time she did not want to be alone with either of my parents. Again, I put it down to the pregnancy.
Unfortunately, I was not present at the birth of my son, being apart for long periods is one of the bad aspects of dating Thai girls. With a new baby on the way, I had to ensure that we were financially secure. The company that I was working for in the UK was going through a difficult period and there was talk of redundancies. I had to make sure that my job was secure which involved making myself available for overtime as much as possible. Nan gave birth to my son three weeks earlier than expected which meant that I was still in the UK working. After a few days of concern, Nan called me to say that everything was okay and that they were being allowed to leave the hospital.
When I had finished my rotation, I immediately flew to Thailand. Nan was living with her family in Buriram so I would stay there too. I was travelling to Thailand with a friend of mine who was going back to Pattaya. During the plane journey he told me that he had heard rumours that Nan had been dating somebody else when I was back in the UK. I could not believe this. My world seemed to come crashing down but my friend emphasised that it was all just rumours and that I should speak to Nan first because untrue rumours about Thai girls are not exactly rare.
That conversation with my friend put doubts in my mind with regard to my son. Was he really mine? Had Nan been cheating on me? I had seen pictures of my son and you could certainly tell that he had a western man as a father. The date of conception also reassured me as we had never been apart. Even so, if she had been cheating, was this the girl that I wanted to start a family with? I decided that I would organise a paternity test.
When I arrived at the village I told Nan of my concerns and her reaction told me everything I needed to know. She was so angry with me and refused the paternity test out of hand. She had something to hide. She tried to cover it up by telling me that I should trust her. That was why she was so angry but something just did not feel right. Her family came to try and talk to me but again, I felt like they were hiding something. Adamant that I wanted a paternity test, Nan confessed all.
During a visit to one of the discos in Buriram we had shared a bottle of tequila. We were both very, very drunk. Nan had gone to the toilet and been propositioned by a man, also from the UK. They had sex in a toilet cubicle. She had never seen or heard from him again but confessed that there was a strong possibility that he was the father. She could see some of him in the face of “my son”.
Nan eventually agreed to a paternity test. As suspected, the result came back that I was not the father. Nan pleaded with me to stay with her and I did try. I thought that I could forget everything that had happened. It had been a drunken moment in a toilet. I wanted to give her a second chance. Unfortunately for me, every time I looked at the baby, anger and jealousy came flooding back.
The relationship could not work. Nan was upset and I was heartbroken. I wanted to give her some security so I gave her a substantial amount of money to finish the house and take care of her family. This eased the pain for both of us somewhat. Probably more for her than for me!
My advice on Thai dating is to stay far away from Pattaya and other tourist hotspots when searching for serious romance with regular Thai girls. It doesn’t make much difference if the girl works in a salon, a supermarket, or a bar... the risk factor is still way too high in such places. That is not to say that every Pattaya girl is bad or that all regular Thai girls are paragons of virtue, but the odds are much better if you get away from the tourist areas.
The betrayal in this story is bad enough, but it is nothing compared to the nightmares that some unsuspecting westerners get tangled up in when they meet the wrong sort of Thai girls. That’s why it is essential to build up your knowledge of local customs before jumping straight into a relationship with your eyes wide shut!
If you enjoyed reading this story, click here for another.
I did think about titling this section of the website ‘The Culture
Shock’ as I think it is fair to say that there is a significant culture
shock for anyone that jumps straight into the unknown and starts dating
Thai girls without first getting themselves familiar with the ways
things are done in Thailand. I decided against that section name as it
doesn’t really need to be a shock if you give yourself some preparation
first; if you don’t get prepared, you’re probably going to spend a lot
of time saying the wrong things, doing the wrong things, meeting the
wrong women, getting frustrated at things and generally feeling lost at
sea, not knowing what is going on or where you’re headed!
This section of the site starts with some common sense Thai dating advice and then progresses into some much needed deeper understanding of how the Thai family unit is structured. The concepts that I explain are not at all complicated, but they are quite different to what you will be used to in the West. Interestingly, I think that our grandparents would probably feel a little more at home with many Thai cultural concepts as many of them feel reminiscent of the past when people had less material wealth but shared what they had with their loved ones. Thai family culture is like this, but it does come with a loss of independence.
The fun doesn’t end with cultural challenges; there are
quite a few common issues that crop up with international dating that
are more of a personal nature than a cultural nature, and that’s where
my Thai girlfriend section comes in. It starts with a look at some of
the basic, typical mistakes that many a foreign man has made when
getting into a relationship with a Thai lady. After that, it goes into a
bit of detail about the options you’ll be faced with before you decide
whether or not to take the leap i.e. it looks at the different sorts of
Thai girls that you can meet such as rural farm girls right through to
hi-society girls in the big city.
This section doesn’t just look at the decisions you need to make before you go about meeting Thai girls, it goes on to look at the best way to present yourself to a Thai lady on your first date and what sort of things you should expect on that date. There’s information here too about those critical first few months of a relationship when the two of you are most at risk of misunderstanding each other. After that, I’ve even added a page on the pros and cons of living with your new lady in Thailand compared to living with her in your country.
Whilst the previous section looked at the ‘before you
meet’ sort of decisions you need to make and the ‘how to understand each
other once you’ve met’ sort of aspects of Thai dating, this section
sits in between i.e. how do you actually go about meeting the right
girls. As you can guess from the section name, my suggestion for anyone
that is not actually living in Thailand is to choose the online dating
route; this is a far better option than many people have taken i.e.
getting serious with bar-girls that they meet whilst on vacation!
Since online Thai dating is my recommended route for finding the right woman, it would be remiss of me to leave you without my best advice about how to make the most of the online opportunities. Make no mistake; there are plenty of tricksters online that are looking for a rich benefactor so, in this section, I’ve taken care to help shield you from these ladies with a few online tactics for your own use! Of course, it is not just a few of the online ladies you need to be wary of, some of the online sites themselves are scams, so I’ve also carefully chosen the dating sites that I recommend in order to make absolutely certain that quality is assured.
I hinted in the last section overview that it is a bad idea to get
involved in serious Thai dating with a bar-girl and the reasons
why that is the case should be abundantly obvious to anyone who has
visited the tourist destinations in Thailand such as Pattaya. Whilst it
may be obvious, it hasn’t stopped a lot of men from taking a chance!
This section goes into some detail about why you really shouldn’t do
this, and it goes on to describe some of the reasons why it is such a
temptation to many men.
First of all you should know that these girls don’t tend to be bad people as such, they are more usually just people that are in a bad situation for one reason or another. That doesn’t mean that you can solve the problem and resolve the bad situation and you really shouldn’t try to form any kind of romantic attachment. The problem, of course, is that whilst most men understand the follies of getting involved, many are helpless to resist the temptation! For that reason I’ve added a heart-wrenching true story to this section, one that really makes clear what is at stake when you get involved with the wrong sort of Thai lady.
Thailand has long been regarded as being something of a haven for men seeking a relationship with transsexual ladies and with good reason, it is the only place on earth that I am aware of where such relationships can be had without threat or fear of persecution of one form or another. The tolerance level here for this sort of thing is the stuff of dreams for those men that dare not entertain the notion of a transsexual relationship in their own countries. In this section, I offer you my advice about the various options open to you with Thai ladyboys.
Thai dating via the online route is again my recommended way forward and I have also provided a recommended ladyboy dating site for you to consider. It is actually an easy site to suggest as it is the only major site with specific services for men seeking Thai ladyboys, I’m certain that you will find it a useful option.
Above all, I hope that you will enjoy reading the pages of my website and that it will provide you some valuable information about Thai girls that you can put to use. If you have questions that you need answering, you can contact me via the link at the bottom of the page, or you can post your question in the comment in the box above. Thanks for reading this far, enjoy the rest of the site.
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